With each match that is made, patience has come easier to me. I understand that things will come up and we will work as a team to solve them and move forward. The biggest challenge about this is that while I may have the experience, the intended parents and their surrogate do not. It is my job to manage these potential road blocks and keep everything moving as smoothly and quickly as possible. Some days this is a very easy aspect of my job, other days it is a challenge. All of the experienced carriers that I work with have a favorite saying. "Surrogacy is a hurry up and wait process." A very simple saying, but it holds a lot of truth. Ironically I find myself often encouraging baby steps.
I am a very optimistic person and I think it is very important to be a cheerleader for those I work with. I know that there is a chance that we will run into obstacles, have a failed cycle, or other issues. I am not going to focus on those because I believe is positive thoughts. It does not mean that I am overlooking the negative possibilities, but I choose not to focus on them. Many of the intended parents I work with have had a lot of negative things happen on their journey to parenthood, and it is my mission to help them have a positive experience. We will cross each bridge together and take baby steps until we have reached our goal.